I have learned it over and over but I have been reminding myself lately that 'busy is not a badge of honor.'
Especially as a business owner, I am nearly always tempted to plan and work CONSTANTLY!!!! I don't clock in and out. My work is my passion so if I am not responsible for my schedule, it is SO easy to slip from productive to overwhelmed. Very often, it is easier to quiet my inner chatter by staying busy as opposed to 'being with' that chatter in the calm and quiet.
Any one else??
Uh, like most of us??
Right now, as I sit in a cafe attempting to multitask, I am laughing at myself. I am bouncing from tab to tab and inbox to inbox trying to tackle 90 things and not finishing one of them! I start one thing that reminds me of another I forgot. I take my hands off the keyboard to write on my to-do list. I drop the list to pick up my phone then back to the keyboard!
GAH! Are you dizzy yet???
I joke about my ADHD brain driving me into action so often but really, it's not that much of a joke. Even when I am tired and wanting to chill out, relaxing can be more challenging than knocking out my to-do list. This can tend to cause an exhausted feeling that makes anything we take on seem like 'work' instead of passion. This strategy can really sabotage our joy and passion for our chosen careers and lives and make us forget why we chose them in the first place.
So let's pause here and take a deep breath together.
Inhaaaaaleeeeeee aaaand exhaaaaaaaaleeeeee.
Ahhhh.There we go.
I invite you to repeat after me:
I am grateful that I cannot do it all RIGHT THIS SECOND!
I am grateful for the fact that I only have two hands.
I am grateful to be physically reminded that it is all designed perfectly to go the way that it will go.
I am thankful for reminders of my humanity and to chill the eff out!
It will get done.
It will be fine.
I chose this life at one point.
I am on my way not matter how it goes or how fast.
Keep in mind that we have more practice with being overwhelmed than we do with being calm, cool, and collected. It is in our human nature to find the problems and fix them. We attempt to fix overwhelm by controlling things. Fact is, that list will always be there. It can keep us going at ALL hours if we let it. The job is never done. Life is never done...until it's done...so let up a bit.
Here I am, taking a break to check in with you lovers.
In case you need the reminder.
Chill the eff out!
Bring joy back to what you are up to with a few simple steps:
No matter where you are in your career path, I always invite you to practice relaxing with me.
Live the life you love by slowing down long enough to realize, this IS life. Right here, right now.
Written by Abigail Gazda
Liver of life and lover of love, Abigail has transformed her passion for education into a full-time career as a blogger, life coach, and public speaker. Author of Giving Up Giving Up: The Memoir of a Quitter, the transformative work she does invites people to live with intentionality and power.