My eyebrows move up my forehead.
My ears tuck back.
My eyes get wider.
My voice gets louder and my speech gets faster.
I start leaning forward and using my hands to talk when I get an opportunity to share something I am passionate about.
I used to make this mean I was "too much."
I used to be afraid my way of being would chase others away...and it would...when I was concerned with impressing people.
Since dropping the people pleasing and accepting my volcanic energy as my own, I have become more of myself everyday.
I get so amped by so much.
I love teamwork and celebrate folks coming together to create and collaborate.
I love seeing the potential in everything and everyone and enrolling peeps in possibility.
I love sharing transformation and opportunity with any and everyone.
It gets the juices flowin'!!!!!
So yes, I am bat shit passionate about a lot of things! I am crazy about unleashing greatness in this world, from my own heart or the hearts of others. I go wild about ideas that will promote positive impact.
Call me crazy but....well, just go ahead
I have a lot of clients ask me for advice in our calls. While I am no Dear Abby, I can tell they want to know what the best next decision is for his/her life. Whether it is about a career move, relationship move, or anything, the questions I hear them really asking me is:
"Do I have permission to be myself?"
"Do I have permission to trust myself?"
"Am I allowed to do what I want?"
The answer is yes.
The answer is always yes.
A request for advice is more of a request for agreement about a next move or phase of life. We as humans CRAVE agreement in our decisions. We want confirmation that we are 'right' by our friends and family...and ourselves. We operate as if we have backing that our decision is a better one and we have more chances of success/survival. It is a natural side effect of the human condition to want our thoughts and feelings justified so that we feel more comfortable doing (or not doing) something.
This way of being tends to diminish our Power, Freedom, and Self-Expression. It keeps us safe. It keeps us limited. It keeps us surviving decisions instead of making powerful choices. The interesting part of life is we are the creators of it. We determine its quality. We are in the front seat at all times but act like someone else's hands are on the wheel. We let folks give us directions, judge our driving, and have us doubting our ability to drive! We become so hyped up and focused on the destination that we forget the journey or that we are the ones driving.
So when I hear a question such as:
"Should I this/that/the other"?
Should I trust my gut?
Should I follow my heart's desires?
Should I listen to my intuition?
"Does a bear dance in the woods!?!?!"
Yes. The answer is yes.
No matter how it turns out, you will definitely find out more about yourself. You will uncover how capable you are. I will explore the idea that you do actually know what's best for you and your life.
Beware of the need for confirmation, approval, justification, and agreement. Not getting it may stop you for going for something you truly want. It may prevent you from venturing outside of your comfort zone! It may keep you small or have you give up on a dream of your own.
Beware of your desire for advice. It may lead you astray from who YOU are and what YOUR heart wants. If you need agreement, get a life coach. I can tell you they won't agree with you but they will ask you enough questions that you agree with yourself. You'll come to know yourself so damn well that you won't need anyone else's clearance to go for your dreams, own yourself, and rock your world!!!!
Beware of Bears dancing in the woods.
They don't care if you're watching.
And they don't need your approval.
My invitation is to get to dancing on your own.
Close your eyes if your scared but start shakin' what cha Momma gave ya!
Live the life you love!
I have learned it over and over but I have been reminding myself lately that 'busy is not a badge of honor.'
Especially as a business owner, I am nearly always tempted to plan and work CONSTANTLY!!!! I don't clock in and out. My work is my passion so if I am not responsible for my schedule, it is SO easy to slip from productive to overwhelmed. Very often, it is easier to quiet my inner chatter by staying busy as opposed to 'being with' that chatter in the calm and quiet.
Any one else??
Uh, like most of us??
Right now, as I sit in a cafe attempting to multitask, I am laughing at myself. I am bouncing from tab to tab and inbox to inbox trying to tackle 90 things and not finishing one of them! I start one thing that reminds me of another I forgot. I take my hands off the keyboard to write on my to-do list. I drop the list to pick up my phone then back to the keyboard!
GAH! Are you dizzy yet???
I joke about my ADHD brain driving me into action so often but really, it's not that much of a joke. Even when I am tired and wanting to chill out, relaxing can be more challenging than knocking out my to-do list. This can tend to cause an exhausted feeling that makes anything we take on seem like 'work' instead of passion. This strategy can really sabotage our joy and passion for our chosen careers and lives and make us forget why we chose them in the first place.
So let's pause here and take a deep breath together.
Inhaaaaaleeeeeee aaaand exhaaaaaaaaleeeeee.
Ahhhh.There we go.
I invite you to repeat after me:
I am grateful that I cannot do it all RIGHT THIS SECOND!
I am grateful for the fact that I only have two hands.
I am grateful to be physically reminded that it is all designed perfectly to go the way that it will go.
I am thankful for reminders of my humanity and to chill the eff out!
It will get done.
It will be fine.
I chose this life at one point.
I am on my way not matter how it goes or how fast.
Keep in mind that we have more practice with being overwhelmed than we do with being calm, cool, and collected. It is in our human nature to find the problems and fix them. We attempt to fix overwhelm by controlling things. Fact is, that list will always be there. It can keep us going at ALL hours if we let it. The job is never done. Life is never done...until it's done...so let up a bit.
Here I am, taking a break to check in with you lovers.
In case you need the reminder.
Chill the eff out!
Bring joy back to what you are up to with a few simple steps:
No matter where you are in your career path, I always invite you to practice relaxing with me.
Live the life you love by slowing down long enough to realize, this IS life. Right here, right now.
The "No Matter What" Club
It wasn't created, just named. Therefore, no meetings!!
No Matter Whaters aren't born, they are made.
"No Matter What" isn't a thing you do.
"No Matter What" is a mentality.
"No Matter What" is a commitment to all that is possible.
We know "No Matter Whaters." Those people in the world paving paths. Those souls striving to make the most of every minute. Those hearts on fire for experience: sights, sounds, tastes, and allll the feels. Those lovers out there observing, creating, and sharing as much greatness as possible.
Those people who believe so fiercely that no obstacle or objection will stop them for going after everything possible in life.
The "No Matter Whaters" are beams of light so undeniable, they ignite passion and excitement just being present. They evoke thought and action with their catalyst energy. It is like staring at a unicorn to see someone you know living the most they can and loving with all they have. Their love of life is so apparent that it brings a sense of joy to any and every adventure.
I have noticed the power that veteran "No Matter Whaters" posses is practiced and steadfast. I find it awe inspiring to see and feel that light beaming from my friends, family, mentors, and peers.
"It is a belief that we deserve the best life possible for ourselves and those we affect."
I am grateful to have these sources of energy in my life to remind me of what I am up to in the world.
I am grateful to be a "No Matter Whater."
I won't kid you. It takes practice, patience, commitment, self trust, and self love. It takes knowing, stating, declaring, and believing that you deserve the life you love. It takes setting boundaries and asking for support. It takes a self love so strong that you can ask for what you want and actually being okay recieving it without guilt or self judgement. No matter what it is you want in life, it requires deciding that you can have it no...matter...what.
The belief that comes with a "No Matter What" perspective is what will guide you and keep you on your path to the best version of yourself. Stay curious about all that is possible. Stay curious about what your subconsious is telling you. Stay the course of growth and enlightenment. Stay the course of self discovery. Stay the course of living with purpose and no matter what, you will create more of what you want in life and the world. The more you choose it, the more it chooses you.
Written by Abigail Gazda
Liver of life and lover of love, Abigail has transformed her passion for education into a full-time career as a blogger, life coach, and public speaker. Author of Giving Up Giving Up: The Memoir of a Quitter, the transformative work she does invites people to live with intentionality and power.